Are there some things that every woman “should” experience by age 40?

I think by age 40 you should certainly have some ‘life experience’ and some fabulous memories to look back on. The following list is some of the things I think a woman in her 40’s should know, should have and should have done in her life so far!

  1. Should have kissed someone so intensely and powerfully that it will forever define ‘passion’ for her.IMG_1137
  2. Learned to make at least one difficult recipe and to make it well.
  3. Have awareness of any genetic illnesses that might manifest so that you choose the appropriate lifestyle to prevent that from happening.
  4. Learned to have a confrontation with a person she is close to in a calm and collected manner.
  5. Been the role model and guide for a kid she is not the mother of.
  6. Have a ‘safe space’ for herself where she can relax in peace and do any thinking that needs to be done.
  7. Made love to someone who was aware of every pleasure zone in her body.
  8. Have one good friend who can always help her find laughter no matter how tough things are.
  9. And a friend who is always there when she needs a good cry.
  10. Bought a costly present for herself because she knows she’s worth it.
  11. Had a goal that was so out of the world that she feared it.IMG_1460
  12. Had a relationship she can tell stories about over the years.
  13. The knowledge that everyone will get older and that living on requires money.
  14. Had an experience that was very painful but has made her stronger.
  15. Own a beautiful dress that she loves enough to wear just about anywhere.
  16. Have a habit that she does for herself and only for herself.
  17. Have an understanding that her parents were not perfect but that they did everything they could possibly do.
  18. Have something that makes her cringe every time she thinks about it but increases her appreciation for the memories that make her happy.
  19. Have recorded her emotions and ideas in a Diary.IMG_1457
  20. Have one friend who she can always turn to when she is in trouble.
  21. Have an object that always makes her sentimental.
  22. Have an awareness of what she wants and doesn’t want from a partner.
  23. Have a secret that she has never told anyone which always brings her pleasure when she remembers it.
  24. Know a woman more advanced in years as her role model.
  25. Follow a spiritual path where she learns wisdom and is nurtured.
  26. Love a song that seems to be about her.
  27. One that she always has to sing out loud.
  28. Have a bucket list. It is alright if she hasn’t ticked off everything yet.
  29. Have a vision that motivates her to get up and work even on the worst day.
  30. Understand herself well enough to use what she knows about herself.
  31. Have an accomplishment that no person can make you feel bad about.
  32. Own a collection of photos that always brings her happiness.IMG_1454
  33. Have experienced the loss of a person whom she cherished so much that there will always be an empty space inside her.
  34. Have learned to say ‘no’.
  35. Have an acceptance of herself just the way she is.
  36. Have an activity that she can do for ages without getting bored.
  37. Have a few white hairs or some other imperfection in her body.
  38. Have had a lover who made her adventurous for as long as they were together.
  39. Have some savings for times of trouble.
  40. Have an understanding that 40 is the prime of life and there is so much left for her to do. IMG_1458
“The French are true romantics. They feel the only difference between a man of forty and one of seventy is thirty years of experience.” – Maurice Chevalier
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